Nobody is responsible to make me happy, it is my business to be happy or to be unhappy.... ~OSHO~

Childish patterns that persist in our mind.

 It is very rare to really become mature. The child goes on remaining there. One has to say goodbye to the child - only then does one become mature.

 There is a basic cause to it: each child learns in his childhood that he has just to demand and all his demands have to be fulfilled. And they are fulfilled, otherwise he would not survive. He has no responsibility to give anything - he simply gets; and because of this a very wrong pattern sets in. The child simply gets and there is no question of giving. He becomes very manipulative, he becomes very political: he knows how to manipulate the mother and the father and the whole family.

 If it is needed he cries, creates a tantrum, creates such hell that they have to yield, or, if sometimes it helps, he smiles; but these are all strategic, political gimmicks. The whole effort is of dominating, of possessing.

And the child wants to be dictatorial - each child is dictatorial. When he needs her, the mother should rush to him immediately; not a single moment has to be lost. If he needs something, it has to be supplied right now - he cannot wait. And all these things have to be done because the child is so helpless. That helplessness becomes his strategy and he never learns to give.
 Only people who know how to give are non-possessive. Remember it. People who know only how to get are bound to be possessive because, who knows? If somebody else possesses the mother, then? So no child likes the birth of another child. He hates it - the very idea is repulsive - because that means division, that means the mother will not be absolutely available to him. Each child wants to kill the new child, has murderous ideas, and that child remains in everybody.
 We become mature physically; psychologically we remain immature. So on the surface we pretend that we are grown-up, and nobody is a grown-up. This is one of the basic problems - that everybody is showing that he is a grown-up and nobody is a grown-up. So it is only a veneer, just a facade, skin-deep. Scratch a little bit more and the child is there and the tantrum. The child wants to possess and dominate and is always afraid that somebody else may take his woman, may' take her man - then what? And you are needy, you are hungry.
 So you have to be absolutely certain that your woman never talks with anybody, never laughs with anybody, never loves anybody. You create a prison around her - a very subtle prison - and you are constantly on the watch. Now how can love happen in such circumstances? You are watching her, she is watching you, so both are against each other. afraid, insecure. How can love arise in suspicion, in doubt? Each is like a policeman to the other: every detail has to be known - what you have been doing, where you have been, with whom have you been, what you have talked about.
 How is love possible?
 Love is a fragile phenomenon. It is not possible to grow in such a hard soil, and it never grows. And because it never grows you are more hungry for it. The more hungry you are, the more possessive you become. You know only one way. So you say that you love the woman, but that's only a saying.
 If you come to know that she has been laughing with somebody else and has been happier than she ever is with you, you will kill her. But you say you love her!
 Your love can turn into hate any moment. It is only love on the surface - deep down it is hate. Your so-called lovers all hate each other, but because they need, they go on pretending. They are afraid - the woman may leave; then they will be lonely. And that loneliness makes them afraid. You will lose your identity - who you are - and what are you going to do then? You will feel almost like a small child lost in the supermarket who cannot find the mother. Or you will be like a dog, lost in the paradeground and just rushing everywhere looking for the master and not knowing where to go.
 Who will take him home?
 Unless this needy love is dropped and a totally new love arises in you - love that knows how to give, love that enjoys giving; not the love of a child but the love of a mature person - you will remain possessive. You will turn the other into a thing, you will reduce her to the thing, and when you reduce the other, the other reduces you.
 The so-called love affairs are almost like enmity. They are not love - no friendship, not at all. Each is just trying to exploit the other. It is a mutual arrangement of exploitation: 'I will exploit you, so I have to allow myself to be exploited by you.'
 Love can be defined... they have in China a very ancient definition - it is: 'Scratching the other's back so that the other can scratch your back.' That's all. It is difficult to scratch one's own back, so somebody else scratches your back and in return you scratch her back - a mutual arrangement, but nothing of much value.
 If you really want to drop possessiveness - and it has to be dropped, otherwise you will remain miserable - then you will have to understand that your child is there and that you have not grown psychologically. That child has to be taken into full consciousness. It functions through the unconscious - it has to be brought into awareness, into full light. You have to see it and its ugliness.
 In that absolute clarity you can say goodbye to the child. It is your problem.
 Jesus says 'Unless you are like children you will not enter into my kingdom of god.' And he is right.
Another saying can be created 'Unless you are childish, you will not enter into the kingdom of hell.'
 To be like children is one thing and to be childish is just the opposite. And people are childish but on the surface are trying to be brave and courageous and heroes, mm ? just on the surface all that macho. But just hiding behind that is a small crying child whose bed is wet. His mother is not available and he does not know what to do. Or a child who is hungry and is hankering for the breast and the breast is not available... is helpless.
 You will have to bring this whole state of your mind into clear light. Awareness transforms. See to it - bring it out, meditate over it. It is not just possessiveness: behind possessiveness is the child. It is not just jealousy: behind jealousy it is the child. Because a mature person is never jealous - cannot be. Why should he be?
 Nobody is obliged to love you. Nobody is responsible to make you happy. A mature person understands this much - just bare facts, bare fundamentals: 'Nobody is responsible to make me happy - it is my business to be happy or to be unhappy. Nobody can make me unhappy or happy and nobody has this responsibility, so how can I be jealous? For what? How can I make the other feel responsible and guilty? The other is free.'
If out of the freedom of the other he or she decides to be with you and loves you, be thankful. If she moves away, it is perfectly okay. If you feel sad, that is your business; that is none of her problem Out of freedom we meet and out of freedom we should remain together. And if out of freedom separation happens, so it happens; it has to be accepted. The mature person accepts life with all its thorns and with all its flowers.
And he never makes the other feel guilty. These are ways of making the other feel guilty: 'You are making me miserable because you were talking to that man and you were looking so happy. That is making me unhappy.' It is not making you unhappy - it has nothing to do with your happiness. It is your childishness, your immature demands, unhealthy demands, pathological demands, that are making you unhappy.
 So just become a little more alert of the child inside. Meditate more on it. Every day for at least one hour sit silently and watch the child, its ways, its functioning, and the whole mechanism of it. And don't judge, don't call it names. Don't condemn it because that is not going to help. That is again childish. Just watch without any judgement, without any evaluation, just watch. Let the child have its full say. See how it functions, how it works, how this mechanism has been functioning inside you.
 And just watching it you will be surprised: things have started changing. Seeing the stupidity of it one starts changing. It is going to happen.
 This is my whole work here - to make you mature, so mature that you don't need any love. You give, and if it comes in return that's another thing, but it was not the basic motivation behind it. To give love for love's sake is maturity. Much comes in return, a thousandfold comes in return, but that is another matter. That is nothing to be thought about it is not part of your desire; it is just out of the blue. But you had enjoyed giving. Then one is not jealous.
 If you are needy you will be jealous, and the child is needy. It goes on hanging, it goes on finding mother and father figures and goes on hanging on them, goes on demanding as if the whole world exists just to fulfill you! The child thinks of himself as the centre of the whole existence. That is stupid. We are not the centres, nobody is the centre of the whole.
 Just watch it, meditate over it. It will go, it has to go. It is creating misery and nothing else, so why cling to it? But it can go only when you have become absolutely conscious of it.
 This is the alchemy of awareness.
 OSHO

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This is a mystery school where your test is your actions, your responses.... ~OSHO~

Whatever I am saying you may not be able to repeat in words, but it will be resounding in your heart, in your being, and it will do its work. It will change you. You will see the change in your actions, in your behavior, the way you respond in situations. That will be the proof - not that you remember what I have said.

And don't force yourself to remain awake, because that means you are creating a disturbance in the harmony. Allow yourself to be overwhelmed completely and lost into it. It is not falling asleep, it is falling into samadhi.

Samadhi and sleep are very close; they appear almost the same. Because we are accustomed to and we know sleep, when for the first time samadhi starts happening we think it is sleep. Sleep is known, samadhi is unknown. The only difference is in sleep you have dreams; in samadhi you don't have any dreams but just a silence, utter silence - a deep stillness as if you are no more.
In church, the priest did not allow anybody to leave in the middle of his sermon. His reason was that it wakes up people who are taking a beautiful morning nap.
I also prevent people from leaving in the middle, although for a different reason. There are a few people who are moving towards samadhi and if you simply leave, it creates a disturbance. You may disturb their state, their harmony; they may lose the track.
Whatever is happening,  is perfectly beautiful; just accept it with great gratitude. This is what I want to happen to everybody.
That will be one of the happiest days for me; when everybody here is absent, is in a state of nothingness - in a sense present, perhaps for the first time in his life; present as a silence, and for the first time absent as a separate entity; when everybody becomes one with the whole and slowly slowly melts. The place is no longer so many people here, but just a lake of consciousness without any ripples.
Just to check whether you are in that state or not, my strategy is to use a joke; that gives you a jerk.
If I see that it is giving you a jerk, that means you were in the right space. And after the joke ... you have laughed and you go back again.
You don't need anything but a joke.
A zebra managed to get loose from a zoo and wandered into the countryside. He came to a farm, where the first thing he saw was a sheep. "What do you do?" asked the zebra. "I grow wool," said the sheep.
Then he saw a cow. "What do you do?" asked the zebra. "I give milk," said the cow.
Next he saw a hen. "What do you do?" asked the zebra. "I lay eggs," said the hen.
Then he saw a bull. "What do you do?" asked the zebra.
"First take off those fancy pajamas and I will show you!"
 So just a joke once in a while ... you wake up, you have a jerk and then again the silence.
You have heard Basho's famous haiku:
An ancient pond, A frog jumps in, The sound and the silence again.
And the second silence is deeper than the first silence. The frog has disturbed it for a moment, but again the silence comes back and it is deeper than the first.
It is just like you are walking on a street in the night. It is dark. A car comes by and you see the light.
It passes by you and for a moment there is light, strong light, and then again there is darkness. You will be surprised: now the darkness is deeper than it was before. The experience of light has thrown you deeper into darkness.
Many times, not knowing how life grows, we start creating problems. Now,  is going perfectly well ... even that becomes a problem. One starts thinking something must be wrong:
Nobody else is going perfectly well, and I am going perfectly well ... I am not normal. Everybody is fully awake, listening, and I am disappearing into a deep silence - and certainly you will not be able to recall what I have been saying.
But that is not needed, this is not a university where you have to be examined for your memory.
This is a mystery school where your test is your actions, your responses. Whether you have heard me or not will depend ... if it changes your behavior pattern then you have heard me. Whether you remember my words or not, that is irrelevant.
OSHO

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If you love somebody really, you give him or her perfect freedom - this is a present of the love...~ OSHO ~

If you are alone, you feel lonesome, you feel that you miss the other; your life seems to be only a half. It loses joy, it loses his flowing and blossoming; there remains malnourished. If you are with the other together, there originates a new problem because the other starts penetrating into your sphere. He starts setting to you conditions, he starts requiring things of you, he starts destroying your freedom - and this hurts...

Till present the life-style of the humanity was so demented that you can fulfil only one need. You can be free, but then you leave the image of love... there is nobody who hinders you, there is nobody who interferes, nobody who makes demands, nobody who wants to own you. But then the life gets cold, nearly deadly. The majority of the humanity has decided on the love and has dropped the image of freedom. The people live like slaves. The man has reduced the woman to a thing, to a product; and of course the woman in her own subtle kind has done the same: all husbands stand henpecked.
 The man has degraded the woman to the slave, and the woman has degraded the man to the slave. And of course both hate the slavery, both offer resistance. They are constant in the fight; any small pretext, and the fight begins. But the real fight takes place somewhere else, much deeper; the real fight consists in the fact that they ask for freedom. They cannot say it so clearly, they have forgotten it maybe completely. Since millenniums the people have lived thus. They have seen that her fathers and mothers in the same manner have lived, they saw her grandparents in the same manner live... this is the kind as people live - they have accepted it. Their freedom is destroyed.
 It is, as if we tried to fly with a wing in the sky. Some people have the wing of the love, and some people have the wing of the freedom - both are incapable to fly. Both wings are necessary... - love is a natural need; she is like food. If you are hungry, you feel deeply unwell of course. Without love your soul is hungry; love is soul food. Just as the body food, water, air needs, the soul needs love. But the soul also needs freedom, and it is one of the strangest things that we have not accepted this fact yet. If you love, it is not necessary to destroy your freedom. They can exist both together; there is no contradiction between them. It lies in our stupidity that we have created the contradiction.
 Changes your conditioning in fact of love and freedom: Love the other, but give the other entire freedom. Love the other, but clarifies from the outset that you do not sell your freedom. And if you do not manage this in this local comunity, here with me, you nowhere manage it. This is the beginning of a new humanity.
 Now of course it is only a seed, but soon you will see him growing up into a mighty tree. We experiment with many things. One of the dimensions of our experiment consists in making love and freedom together possible, in making her coexistence possible. Love a person, but does not own him and did not read you own! Exists on freedom and does not lose the love! In addition no need exists. There is no natural hostility between freedom and love; it is a created hostility. It has been natural for centuries in such a way, therefore, you have got used to it; it has become a thing of the conditioning...
 You need to be only a little meditative. Meditation is called, simply the mind to de-conditioning. What has always done the society, must be cancelled. If you are de-conditioning, you can see the beauty of love and freedom together; they are two sides of the same coin. If you love somebody really, you give him or her perfect freedom - this is a present of the love. And if freedom is there, the love answers tremendously strongly. If you give to somebody freedom, you have made the biggest present, and the love comes up like a wave to you...
 Love is a basic need, as basically as freedom, hence, both must be fulfilled. And a person who is of full love and is free, is the nicest what there is in the world. And if two people of such beauty meet, her respect is no respect. It is one itself-cover. It is a constantly fluent stream. It grows constantly to bigger heights. The highest increase of love and freedom is to find out God. In God you find both: immense love, perfect love and absolute freedom.
 A ripe person is a unity, he can also be alone. And if a ripe person gives love, he gives without setting conditions: He gives simply. And if a ripe person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect that you are grateful for it - no, at all, he does not need your thanks not at all. He thanks you for the fact that you accept his love.
 And if two ripe people love each other, one of the biggest paradoxes happens in the life, one of the nicest phenomena: They are alone together and, nevertheless, completely; they are so much together that they are nearly one. But her oneness does not destroy her individuality; really it still strengthens them: They become even more the individual. Two ripe people who love each other help each other to become freer. There no politics is about to dominate no diplomacy, no aspiration. How can you control the person whom you love?
 Remember, freedom is a higher value than love... If love destroys freedom, it has no value. Love can be dropped; freedom must be saved: Freedom is a higher value. And without freedom you can be never happy - this is not possible. Freedom is a deep wish of every man, every woman - extreme freedom, absolute freedom. One begins to hate everything which is destructive for the freedom...
 I am here to give you freedom. I would like to force nothing upon you. I would like to cripple you in no manner; I would that you are simply be yourself. And if the day comes in which you are regardless of me, you are able to love me - before not. I love you. I cannot change it... I simply love you. If you are not here, this Chuang Tzu lecture hall is fully with my love; it makes no difference. These trees still get my love, these birds still get them. And even if all trees and all birds disappear, this continues no difference - the love flows out. Love is, so love flows out.
 Whenever two people love each other, they should not be during 24 hours together. It is very injurious to them, and more than this, it damages to the love itself. The people kill and destroy her love, while they are too much together, because deeply in her inside is injured a little bit. Everybody needs a certain space for herself, and lovers interfere too much with the life of the other without noticing it. They love, hence, they want to stick, interfere with all and everybody and thus love is destroyed. Love can be exceedingly nice if it is not destroyed. If it is destroyed, she can become the biggest hell which there is.
 If you live too much alone, you are bored. There is no excitement - always only you and you and you. It is monotonous, one single tone. You need a change, a little spice. The other brings the change, brings another world in your world, and this is helpful. If you feel, hence, the need for the other, visit him. And if you feel that the need is fulfilled, go back to your own world. If lovers are able to recognise this rhythm of the loneliness and being together, and move constantly between the both if you feel suddenly to be alone, and you go - this I mine with love. If the other person loves you, she respects your need, and if you love them, you respect her need. The alternative is love or no love. If you concede no space other, he becomes bit by bit unhappy and will completely leave. Give him, therefore, a little space, does not stick, and the love affair can become persistent. She can go on and on if the rope is long enough. If the rope is very short, one feels sooner or later locked up, and if this feeling is there once, freedom becomes suddenly more important than love.
 Freedom is not more important than love, but it is felt in such a way if the love itself becomes the prison. If the love overflows constantly at liberty, there is no problem - the respect enriches you every day more. The greater the freedom is in the love, the greater the possibility that it lasts for good and forever. At the moment at which the women understand that this is the way on which love can exist for longer time the flower furthermore can blossom, gives it no problem. The problem originates because they think that you try to escape, and that the love is destroyed, hence, they become timourous and stick even more. The more firmly they hold, the more you catch in to run away - the vicious circle begins. As soon as understanding flows between you, there is no more big problem. We are here to make around each other happy, not unhappily. If you make the other happy, your own luck and the other grows it returns, and this does not stop. This can be reflected on and on in many different kind.
 It is a deeply rooted problem in every man / women respect: The man has more need for freedom than for love, and the woman has more need for love than for freedom. It is not only your problem; it is a problem with every pair in the whole world. The woman does not worry at all about freedom. She is ready to become a slave if she can make only the other also to slave. She is ready to enter every kind of connection if other is also forced to the connection. She is ready to live in a prison if the other is ready to live in a dark cell.
 And the man is ready to sacrifice even the love if she becomes too hazardously for his freedom. He would live with pleasure in the open sky, also alone, this is in order. He would live with pleasure in an affectionate respect, but she is getting dark and to a prison. There lies the difficulty. If both are understanding, to some them to themselves anyhow. He screws off his need for freedom a little, and the woman screws off her need for connection and her acquisitiveness a little; they reach a balance - half / half ones. Then the woman needs fifty percent of love and fifty percent of connection and the man fifty percent of love and fifty percent of freedom. Then there is the possibility of the understanding and planting. If you demand hundred percent of connection, and he demands hundred percent of freedom, then there is constant conflict and quarrelling and grumbling - and this is ugly. And for what that all? You find another. Maybe you find somebody who wants a connection, and maybe he finds somebody who leaves him freedom.
 If you give freedom, it must be unreserved. Whether sex or no sex, this is not the question. If you concede his own space other, you give him totally, without control rope. It is also not a long rope - there is no rope. If you mean a long rope with freedom, it is not freedom. It is a skilful cunning - and it will not help you. You give space and freedom, but you hope on and on that it is not accepted as natural. This is the confusion; therefore, you feel from the balance thrown. We give the other freedom with the image that the other will not use them. Deeply in our inside we hope constantly that the other feels us towards obliged, us will love more. We give freedom, but with a deep, unaware hope that the other will not use of them. If the other uses them, there originates the problem. Give entire freedom. You should well feel with the fact that she feels not guilty. To somebody to make feelings of guilt, is a sin; no other sin amounts to this. She cripples the people, she paralyzes. Say her that she can be free completely and should feel not guilty.
 If you have accepted this once, you have very much a very deep freedom in yourself, because this is a basic law: If you can give other freedom, you have them. And nothing amounts to the freedom. If you give no freedom other, you do not have them, cannot have them. The more you give of it, the more you have of it. The less you give, the less you have of it. It is a two-edged sword - it cuts after two sides. You give to the other freedom, and immediately you are free. You try to build up a captivity, a possession relation round the other, and you are bound, you are a slave; it is mutual. So it simply accepts. If you do this, deep rest about you comes very soon, suddenly freedom is there. She can come at this moment. It is not a question about which one thinks. It is only one flash of the understanding.
 And if she feels drawn from one other what can she do? There one can make nothing. One is a victim so of many desires. Have sympathy with her and say her only, she should give herself about that generally no troubles. Soon you will see that her feeling of guilt will disappear, while you give her more freedom, and then the desire for others also disappears bit by bit. It is a vicious circle. You feel drawn to somebody, and you feel guilty because you have promised to another to remain for good with him. You go against your own promise, against your own ego, your own image. The guiltier you feel, the more you feel drawn. The more you try to suppress a desire, the more incredibly it becomes. The more you offer resistance to him, the more the head fantasizes about that. If the feeling of guilt disappears, it is a good sign; a sign that your lover comes out of the vicious circle. Soon she will see that nobody hinders here, and the whole charm will pass. She will see that there somebody is who loves them so much that he is even ready to love her lover. She will feel a new, even deeper respect with you.
 And this is something what you must understand: You can be close to somebody in two kinds. You can be forced by the law of it, by conscience, feeling of guilt, religion, the police - then you are close to him, but you are not really close to him. You are only physically close to him. There is another nearness which comes from the freedom. Both partners have the freedom to be so far apart as they would want it, but still they choose to be in shape. There is out a choice from perfect freedom. She has a different smell. She is not from this world... them nearly something is from another world. So simply accept it, and accept it with joy. Feel happy about the fact that you could give her such freedom.
 OSHO

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There is nothing right and nothing wrong... ~OSHO~

There is no such thing as right or wrong, because something may be right this moment and it may not be right the next moment. Something may be wrong today and may not be wrong tomorrow.

Right and wrong are not fixed entities, they are not labels that you can put on things, “This is right” and “This is wrong.” But this has been done up to now. Right and wrong have been decided by people. And because people have decided right and wrong, they have misguided the whole humanity.

Manu decides in one way: what he thinks is right becomes right for millions and millions of Hindus for thousands of years. It is so stupid, it is unbelievable! How can people go on following Manu for five thousand years? Everything else has changed. If Manu comes back he will not be able to recognize the world at all; everything has changed. But the Hindu mind goes on following the categories that Manu has fixed.

Still, after five thousand years, there are millions of people in India who are not treated like people. What to say, that they are not treated like people — they are not even treated like cattle. Even cows are far more important than alive people. Cows are worshipped, cows are holy, and the untouchables, the sudras, the rejected people — rejected by Manu, five thousand years ago — are burned.
And even a man like Vinoba Bhave is ready to go on fasting if cow slaughter is not completely stopped in the country, totally stopped. But he is completely silent, he does not say a single word, that the untouchables are being killed, burned alive, their women raped, their children murdered, butchered. Villages of untouchables, whole villages are being effaced from the earth, and Vinoba Bhave is not thinking of going on a fast. Who bothers about these untouchables? They are not part of humanity, they are not human beings. Cows have to be saved, because Manu worships the cow.
 It may have been right at that moment; I am not against Manu, I am against the foolish followers of Manu. It may have been right at that time, because the cow was very very important, it was the center of the whole economy; particularly the Indian economy was based on the cow. It was an agricultural society, and the cow was the source of many things: of the bulls, the bullocks, the manure, the milk — it was immensely important, it was perfectly right to save it. But now the world is living in a totally different way. Manu had a very small world; now we have the whole earth to think of, it is not only a question of a small sect. But once right has been fixed, people go on following blindly; it has been like that up to now.
For example, in the ten commandments Moses says, “Do not worship any other god than the true God. Don’t make idols of the true God and don’t worship any other gods.” It was a totally different world; three thousand years have passed. In fact, in those ten commandments there is not a single commandment which says anything about atheists. It says, “Don’t worship any other god.” It does not say, “Don’t disbelieve in God,” because there was no disbeliever. Atheism was not at all in the air.
Now the most fundamental thing will be to teach people how not to be atheists, because atheism is very prevalent. Almost half of the earth has gone communist, it is atheist, and the remaining half is only formally theist. Now the most fundamental commandment should be, “Don’t be atheists, don’t be disbelievers, don’t be doubters.” Now trust should be the most fundamental teaching to be given to people.
As time changes, rights change, wrongs change. And you can see it in your own life — every day things are different, and you go on clinging to your fixed ideas. The man who lives with fixed ideas lives a dead life.
He is never spontaneous and he is never in a right relationship with the situation that exists. He is never response-able; he functions out of his old conclusions which are no longer relevant, he does not look at the situation itself.
So,  according to me there is no such thing as right and no such thing as wrong. Then what do I teach? I teach awareness — not labeling, not categorizing. I teach awareness. I teach you to be fully aware in every situation, and act out of your awareness. Or, in different words I can say: Any action that happens through awareness is right; any action that happens through unawareness is wrong.
 But see the emphasis. The emphasis is not on the action itself, the emphasis is on the source — awareness or unawareness. If you act fully aware, then whatsoever you do is right. If you move mechanically and do things unconsciously as if you are a sleepwalker, a somnambulist, then whatsoever you do is wrong.
Awareness is right, unawareness is wrong.
But if you go to the priests, they will teach you what is right and what is wrong. They will not give you insight, they will give you dead categories. They will not give you light, so that you can see in every situation what to do and what not to do; they want you to depend on them. They don’t give you insight into things, so you have to remain dependent forever. They give you crutches, but they don’t make you stand on your own feet.
Avoid the priests. Whenever you go to any kind of experts, their whole effort in fact is how to make you dependent on them.
The star of a Broadway hit was visiting friends when talk got around, as usual, to psychiatry. “I must say,” said the hostess, “I think my analyst is the best in the world! You can’t imagine what he has done for me. You ought to try him.”
“But I don’t need analysis,” said the star. “I could not be more normal — there is nothing wrong with me.”
“But he is absolutely great,” insisted her friend. “He will find something wrong.”
There are people who live on finding something wrong with you. Their whole trade secret is to find something wrong with you. They cannot accept you as you are; they will give you ideals, ideas, ideologies, and they will make you feel guilty and they will make you feel worthless, dirt. In your own eyes, they will make you feel so condemned that you will forget all about freedom.
In fact you will become afraid of freedom, because you will see how bad you are, how wrong you are — and if you are free, you are going to do something wrong, so follow somebody. The priest depends on it, the politician depends on it. They give you right and wrong, fixed ideas, and then you will remain guilty forever.
I say to you: There is nothing right and nothing wrong. I don’t want you to depend on me, and I don’t give you any fixed ideas. I simply give you indications, hints, which have to be worked out by you. And the hint that I give to you is awareness. Become more aware, and it is a miracle….
If you are angry, the priest will say anger is wrong, don’t be angry. What will you do? You can repress anger, you can sit upon it, you can swallow it, literally, but it will go into you, into your system. Swallow anger and you will have ulcers in the stomach, swallow anger and sooner or later you will have cancer. Swallow anger and you will have a thousand and one problems arising out of it, because anger is poison. But what will you do? If anger is wrong, you have to swallow it.
I don’t say anger is wrong, I say anger is energy — pure energy, beautiful energy. When anger arises, be aware of it, and see the miracle happen. When anger arises, be aware of it, and if you are aware you will be surprised; you are in for a surprise — maybe the greatest surprise of your life — that as you become aware, anger disappears. Anger is transformed.
Anger becomes pure energy; anger becomes compassion, anger becomes forgiveness, anger becomes love. And you need not repress, so you are not burdened by some poison. And you are not being angry, so you are not hurting anybody. Both are saved: the other, the object of your anger, is saved, and you are saved. In the past, either the object was to suffer, or you were to suffer.
What I am saying is that there is no need for anybody to suffer. Just be aware, let awareness be there. Anger will arise and will be consumed by awareness. One cannot be angry with awareness and one cannot be greedy with awareness and one cannot be jealous with awareness. Awareness is the golden key.
Source – Osho Book “The Book of Wisdom”

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Unless the situation is there you cannot learn deeply... ~ OSHO ~

This is a Sufi story: An old man and a young man are traveling with a donkey. They have reached near a town; they both are walking with their donkey. School children passed them and they giggled and they laughed and they said, ”Look at these fools: they have a healthy donkey with them and they are walking. At least the old man can sit on the donkey.”

Listening to those children the old man and the young man decided, ”What to do? – because people are laughing and soon we will be entering the town, so it is better to follow what they are saying.” So the old man sat on the donkey and the young man followed.
Then they came near another group of people and they looked at them and said, ”Look! – the old man is sitting on the donkey and the poor boy is walking. This is absurd! The old man can walk, but the boy should be allowed to sit on the donkey.” So they changed: the old man started walking and the boy was allowed to sit.
Then another group came and said, ”Look at these fools. And this boy seems to be too arrogant. Maybe the old man is his father or his teacher and he is walking, and he is sitting on the donkey – this is against all rules!”
So what to do? They both decided that now there is only one possibility: that they both should sit on the donkey; so they both sat on the donkey.
Then other groups came and they said, ”Look at these people, so violent! The poor donkey is almost dying – two persons on one donkey. It would have been better if they carried the donkey on their shoulders.”
So they again discussed, and then there was the river and the bridge. They had now almost reached the boundary of the town, so they thought: ”It is better to behave as people think in this town, otherwise they will think we are fools.” So they found a bamboo; on their shoulders they put the bamboo and hung the donkey by his legs, tied it in the bamboo and carried him. The donkey tried to rebel, as donkeys are they cannot be forced very easily. He tried to escape because he is not a believer in society and what others are saying. But the two men were too much and they forced him, so the donkey had to yield.
Just on the bridge in the middle a crowd passed and they all gathered and they said, ”Look, these fools! We have never seen such idiots – a donkey is to ride upon, not to carry on your shoulders. Have you gone mad?”
Listening to them – and a great crowd gathered – the donkey became restless, so restless that he jumped and fell from the bridge down into the river – died. Both men came down – the donkey was  dead. They sat by the side and the old man said, ”Now listen....”
This is not an ordinary story – the old man was a Sufi master, an enlightened person, and the young man was a disciple and the old master was trying to give him a lesson, because Sufis always create situations; they say unless the situation is there you cannot learn deeply. So this was just a situation for the young man.
Now the old man said, ”Look: just like this donkey you will be dead if you listen to people too much. Don’t bother what others say, because there are millions of others and they have their own minds and everybody will say something; everybody has his opinions and if you listen to opinions this will be your end.” Don’t listen to anybody, you remain yourself. Just bypass them, be indifferent. If you go on listening to everybody, everybody will be prodding you to this way or that. You will never be able to reach your innermost center.
OSHO

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